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Showing posts with label Penny Lane. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Penny Lane. Show all posts

Monday, September 29, 2025

Ten Distinct Smells

As instructed in my prompt, I went for a walk (accompanied by my little Penny Lane, of course) by the bay in Edmonds and the ferry terminal. I thought finding ten distinct smells would be tough, but discovered, once I paid attention, it was easy peasy. Paying attention; always the hardest part of any assignment, regardless of its nature.


The briny water is, of course, the first scent to astound the senses the moment I step out of the car, either tugging Penny along or barely keeping up with her pace. The ocean scent is one I welcome, bringing me memories that go long and far into the past, moving me right up into the present. 

Digging for clams from a very young age at Copalis Beach, summer after summer, getting our limit of 15 clams per family member per day, then having to eat them all winter long in various forms of recipes my mother so lovingly tested on her three guinea pigs, Dad, my brother and me. With many other changes his birth would allow, we quit those family adventures after my younger brother was born. I need to save those details for another story and hope I'll have a chance to get to it one day. 

Other memories this scent instills are boating, camping, beachcombing at Dash Point as a kid, and in the early '90's at Shark’s Spit on the BC Peninisula, with many places up and down the timeline and coastline. From the Atlantic to the Pacific, north to Alaska and Massachusetts, South to the Caribbean and the beaches of Mexico’s Riviera, the salty air of Denmark.

Perfume! Almost an assault while walking along the strand, yet pleasant in its own way… motherly, sisterly, womanly. Patchouli quickly creates an image of a long-ago boyfriend of my daughter. Although I don’t know if Travis actually wore patchouli, whenever I smell it, he comes to mind, a young man who embodied the spirit of a ‘60’s hippie more than the originals, with his long, tangled hair, penchant for radical politics, and riding his bicycle up and down the steep hills of Queen Anne.


Someone lights a cigarette, and I cross the path where the atmosphere changes so immediately that brine and perfume are wiped out in a sense of love and hate. I cannot stand the smell of secondhand smoke, and yet, and yet… there are times when I get the scent of that freshly lit cigarette, and it brings back the days of my own personal addiction. I had a lot of affection for my little kit of Marlboros and lighters. I kept a carton in the freezer and opening a new pack was akin to a distinct euphoria. I miss it... in my dreams. I know what smoking did to me; it affected my lifelong health. If I were ever to pick it up again. It will kill me. It's been 20+ years, and I can't believe I loved it as much as I did.


Coffee, as we walk by the espresso bar, where people are ordering lattes and such, along with ice cream and pastries. Nothing clings to the air quite like coffee brewing. I started drinking coffee when I was about 4 years old, in a tiny cup with its matching saucer. I still have it to this day, a baby shower gift from one of the Danish ladies I grew up with. My first coffee drinks were mostly hot milk, with a little coffee to flavor. As an adult I varied between drinking it black and undiluted, to absolutely destroying it with cream and sugar. I drink tea now but occasionally love a cup of well-prepared coffee. My Danish grandmother pressed upon me how important it was to always have the pot on, ready to welcome visitors. I’ve missed that treasure of a woman for 59 years now; I was 17 when she passed. I've never known anyone to make people feel as welcome as Myrtine Grove did. 

Ah, the odor of sunscreen. Coppertone from those early days of bronzing and bubbly skin, and years later the pink-tin-bottled stuff we sprayed on my grandkids. I had an allergy to parabens and UV filters that burned my skin more than the sun ever did. I eschewed sunscreens and now we’ve learned the spray remedies weren’t too healthy either, giving kids respiratory reactions. 

I get depressed at summer's end when my skin turns back to its natural glaring white, after tanning naturally to a golden brown.

Kiawe burning (pronounced kee-AH-vay); kiawe grilling of salmon especially. I never smell Kiawe without recalling my first encounter on the streets of La Conner, Washington. We used to drive up there, wander the galleries, drink and eat too much and stay in fine places like The La Conner Inn, Hotel Planter, and Wild Iris. The Tulip Festival that started in the mid-80’s was often a draw for us, as well as the migration of snow geese and trumpeter swans. The streets of La Conner still smell like Kiawe, especially when tourist season kicks in. In later years, we boated up the Swinomish, and coming through the passage, I sniffed the air like a dog for that familiar delicious smell. 

Meat, beef, or steak, which is different from the above Kiawe, in the sense that there is a distinct odor to a fire lit under red meat, and the spices and herbs that entice the appetite. These odors permeate the air from the many restaurants in Edmonds and the waterfront we walk. I love my steak and, as recommended by my doctor, eat steak about twice a month. I rarely order it out, as I can do real justice to a Porterhouse or Ribeye all on my own and it's a lot cheaper, too. Red meat is a complete protein and provided essential amino acids to repair and build muscle. It's a rich source of iron, zinc and Vitamin B12. 

My fondest memory of eating steak is Las Vegas, a few years ago, with my youngest daughter, when we sidled up to a bar and ordered the most expensive thing on the menu. It was a self-taught lesson in having whatever we wanted and at the moment we wanted a heavy pour of pinot noir and a filet mignon. Each.

Broken ferns. They give off a very specific scent. Green, earthy, the forest floor, scattered with the detritus of the eroding and waste of the forest, the darkness of a walk in the woods, all the sounds that accompany... creaking timbers, multitudes of insects singing, thumping, tweeting, whistling. Birds: goldfinch, sparrow, junco, nuthatch, stellar jay, and owls aroused by the invasion of domesticity. I grew up surrounded by conifers and was either marched through fern laden woods with my dad or the Girl Scouts. 

Mixed in with all these smells, I come upon, or it comes upon me, the humid closeness of Ariel, the detergent that is so prevalent in Mexico. A family walks by and the softness of this clean and hugging scent brings me back to my Lavanderia Pulpito, the drop-off/pick-up laundry I owned in Puerto Vallarta. Many years ago. Someday a story about that, too.

My dog goes with me just about everywhere. Sometimes she smells like me; the lotion I’ve just put on my hands or the squirt of perfume I sometimes wear. Penny Lane, my 6-pound chihuahua-mix, loves her baths in the kitchen sink and for a couple days following, she smells of clean doggy shampoo. But usually... she has her own smell, something like a mix of buttered popcorn, vanilla, and cheese. Ha! Sounds awful, doesn’t it? It’s so perfect, you have no idea until you give her a cuddle.

So, there you have it, the acute recall of the olfactory sense. 

Part of this assignment is to describe the "barren patch in my own backyard" and what I would fill it with (anything I want.) My barren patch is the sorrow of loss. It clings to me all the time, though I keep it well hidden. What would I fill it with if I could? Mostly the babies I lost, I think. If I had a child for each time my womb began to fill, I'd have eleven sons and daughters. And... a complete family would fill my barren patch, something I've felt robbed of, even as hard as I tried to create a whole and thriving unit. 

As we age, losses build up; you never get used to losing someone, especially the young ones. I have lost people who are still alive, and that's the hardest. Maybe I'll go into this in some later blog. That's enough for today.

These isn't fancy writing, just words pulled out of one of the five senses, a writer's best friends. 

Thanks for reading.

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Monday, October 4, 2021

 72

When I think of 72, I imagine an old person. That’s not me. Until, of course, I glance at a mirror, and then it’s kind of a sudden surprise. Every time. Yup, it's me, alright. 


I’ll be getting a consultation later this month about cataracts. My eyes are one of the things that are slowly failing me, and it’s irritating, knowing how well they have stood in my stead for all these seven+ decades. I thank them for all the things they have helped me see well in my lifetime. An eagle flying over our boat in a nasty storm, guiding us to port. The birth of my first grandchild, who entered the world blue and with raging eyes of her own, turned pink, and has been watching us all with great contemplation ever since. A panoramic view from my house in Mexico, Villa Margeaux, and the beach below, where I met some influential people in my life. Mount Rainier from a plane window, pink with the rising sun. Mount Rainier from every window on the south side of my childhood home. Thousands of women marching down Pine Street, Seattle, led by indigenous women in traditional dress, carrying signs and singing songs. From balconies, seated in large auditoriums, close up and far away, some in intimate settings: Joyce Carol Oates, Paul Auster, John O’Leary, Desmond Tutu, Timothy Leary, Mara Liaison, Bill Gates, Tammy Duckworth, Ann Patchett, Gary Trudeau, Wally Lamb... and so many others. Hale Bopp Comet. A mare foaling, a cow calving. Whales breaching, dolphins following us in huge pods, manta ray flying over the water's surface, octopi swimming under the surface. The Charles Bridge, Prague. Hamlet's Castle, Denmark. Glacier Bay, Alaska. Pyramids in Mexico. Volcanos in Hawaii. Mt Rushmore, Grand Canyon, Paul Revere's house. The statue of Barbara Jordan at AUS, Texas. Cenotes in Tulum. Brooklyn Bridge. Sequoias, redwoods. 

    With some good people at the Villa                     Room that got well lived in at the Villa

 

Sights, yes, and sounds, as well. I’ve had difficulty hearing since about 1985, so over half a lifetime. I’m looking forward to the infrastructure bill getting passed and my ability to afford hearing aids that work for me. Aside from the list of notable sees, my list of hears may be impressive to some: Beatles (twice). Don McLean, album debut of American Pie at Doug Weston’s Troubadour in Santa Monica. Ravi Shankar. Dexter Gordon. Mel Tillis. Pearl Jam (several times, for an old lady). Carly Simon, album debut of Anticipation, also Troubadour. Toots Thielmanns, Mose Allison, Maceo Parker, Kurt Elling, John Hammond and many more at Jazz Alley, Seattle. Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, Mamas and Papas, Beach Boys, Keb Mo, Taj Mahal, Turtles, Animals, BJ Thomas, Judy Collins, Neil Diamond…the list goes on and on. The latest Herbie Hancock at The Paramount, Seattle. The precious voices of Mila and Coco, Luca’s cello, their various instruments, sounds and productions. On stage I’ve had the immense pleasure of viewing Maggie Smith, Anthony Hopkins, Patti LuPone, Samuel L. Jackson, Lily Tomlin, Kate Hepburn (twice), Richard Chamberlain, Lawrence Fishburne, Tom Skerritt, Judd Hirsch, Harold Gould, Cleavon Little, Tom Hulce, to mention a few illustrious talents. My god, I miss live theater so much. 

Other body parts. Knees are 72. That’s for sure. Hips catching up, too. Too many accidents, skiing, biking, boating. I guess it's my brain that I've had issues with for most of the 72. I've gone in and out of deep depression all my life, from about 10 or 11 years old. Sometimes it's bad, suicidal a couple times but too smart to put my family and friends through something so awful. I don't talk about it but heck, 72...it's a good time to let some things out of the closet. I'm sure many have been vaguely (or not so vaguely) aware of this. I've tried therapy but it has never gone anywhere for me. I'm much better now, healing with age, I assume. Of course, there are life events that've had an impact but sometimes the boogeyman shows up for no reason whatsoever. When I'm feeling good, and I call that my sense of well being, it's like a pink sunset that I wish would last forever and I always acknowledge it, knowing how lucky I am. 

Boating is one thing I miss. There’s something about being on the water, fresh, river, lake, ocean. I’ve seen a fair share of the Pacific coastline and a bit of the Atlantic, Baltic, Bering, Caribbean, Hawaiian Islands, but if I had one wish and a shitload of money, I’d buy a boat and sail around the Salish Sea. I could man (or should I say woman) the helm as long as the weather didn’t get too rough. I only need a good crew and a somewhat steady set of legs, from the ankles on up.

                                                                Some lucky bastard on Lake Union 

The one big change in my life was at the beginning of the pandemic, when I adopted Penny Lane, the sweetest dog in the world. I got her in June of 2020, but it probably took a few months for us to completely  adjust to one another. Penny gets me moving, which I think is probably the primary thing a person of 72 needs. Some of those hip-and-knee-involved accidents over 72 years have caused joints to seize up and refuse to obey brain-to-body orders, so first thing out of bed in the morning, we are on the trail, rain or shine (and sometimes snow, which is awful, but tolerable). She is a rescue from Puerto Vallarta and after spending months alone during Covid, she made semi-isolation a lot nicer. She is full of character and keeps me smiling.


                  Penny Lane  

I’m glad I had kids. My daughters have been a real comfort to me. They got me through a nasty bout of Covid in January 2020, and I never want to be that sick. Ever. Again. I thought I’d die. So did they. I fell ill on January 24, exactly 26 years to the day that my husband was admitted to Swedish Hospital and our lives were changed forever. The past 24 years I’ve been a solo act. In the beginning it was not easy making decisions on my own. I got brave one day and went to a movie (Shakespeare in Love) alone, something that seemed so odd to me. It broke the spell of alone-fear and after that, I didn’t mind living, eating out, traveling, going to movies and plays, jazz clubs, meetings, and so many other places, on my own. I learned to enjoy my freedom and now I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I look forward to many more years… I have plans. I have a legacy to leave. I have places to go, things to do, people to meet.

Thanks for reading.

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